Becoming Your Best Self - How to Become More Lovable
By Louise Kaelin
For most of us, when we think of finding love, we think of finding a person who will love us, and then we plan to love them back. Unfortunately, in real life it seldom works that way. This is partly because neither party is willing to risk rejection, so no one is willing to be the first to send out love.
There is a way around this, however. The best way to attract love into your life is for you to become more lovable! This advice works well whether you are looking to improve an existing relationship, including with family members, or seeking to become involved in a loving, committed relationship.
Here are ideas for you to become more lovable.
Love others. This may seem obvious, but most people are afraid to love others. However, following the law of attraction, the more we love others, the more attractive and lovable we become. There are, of course, degrees of love, but being open and receptive to people in general will create a welcoming and lovable aura.
Stay in Balance. When it comes to needs, it is critical to put yours on the same footing as the other person. Their needs are equal to yours: not more important or less important. Neither of those models work, but when you put your needs on the same level, you both have a chance to be happy And when you are happy, you are much more lovable!.
Open yourself to empathy. When you feel sympathy for others you feel sorry for them. When you feel empathy with others, you literally share their pain. Of course, the trick here is not to free them by taking on all their pain, but by total understanding and acceptance, you let them know they are not alone. Again, we all find such people very attractive and easy to love.
Be true to your best self. Perhaps the most attractive quality in all people is the ability to be "in" integrity. When your actions match your words which match your beliefs, you exude confidence and approachability to all.
Start with respect. Respect the right of all people to have their own beliefs and make their own choices, even if they are not your beliefs or your choices. That acceptance of others always makes a person more lovable.
"Do not judge others lest ye be judged." Making other people feel judged does not endear us to them. In fact, people try to avoid you because you upset their equilibrium and positive feeling about themselves. Be free of judgment if you want to be lovable!
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From Louise Morganti Kaelin - Working Towards Wholeness Wizard: Becoming Your Best Self
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